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He wasn’t right: I wasn’t lazy, I wasn’t incapable. For years, he happily let me take on both the physical and emotional labor, then berated me when I crashed, insisting I was intentionally slowing down because I expected him to do everything. No matter how hard I tried, I was less and less able to keep up. I couldn’t comprehend how I ended up this way. How does someone go from working three jobs, running rental properties, taking full-time college courses, and traveling quar

“I’m fine.” It’s the reflexive answer we give when asked how we are by friends, coworkers, neighbors, and cashiers alike. We say it when we’re happy, when we’re mad, when we’re devastated, and when we’re simply too tired for conversation. We say it sincerely, and we say it when it’s anything but true. For most people, “fine” isn’t exactly a lie… It’s a habit. It allows us to move through the world without drawing attention to ourselves, without inviting judgment, without burd